When it comes to astrology, often times we put our focus into the positive traits of our signs. However, there is light and dark in everyone. Our Lilith sign, often referred to as a Black Moon Lilith is a placement that tells us about our dark side or our inner bad bitch. It’s not an official celestial body, instead it’s represented by the Lunar Apogee or dark side of the moon at the time of our birth. Many people write this sign off as being a one dimensional approach to our negative traits, but like the figure it’s name after, it’s more complicated than that.
Lilith was Adam’s first wife and although she’s viewed as sinful, she’s someone who stood up for herself and took control of her own power. In understanding who we are, we must recognize who we are at our dark times, specifically in times where we feel hurt or angry. In a more modern context, Lilith is BeyoncĂ©’s “Lemonade,” Taylor Swift’s “Look What You Made Me Do” or Alanis Morissette’s “You Oughta Know.”
Take a look at the gallery below to learn more about your Lilith sign and let us know your Lilith in the comments section on social media.
Aries
If your Lilith is in Aries, you’re a highly competitive and driven go-getter. Nothing and no one will stop you from getting what you want. You’re also someone who often finds themselves in the spotlight, but struggles with your own ego and are told by others that you can be “too much.” Make sure that you let others have the limelight every once and a while but keep at it with your competitive spirit.
Taurus
If your Lilith is in Taurus, you have a deep care for the people in your life. However, you’re someone who finds stability and comfort in their material possessions. This can mean that you become fixated on money and can become greedy, but the pendulum can also swing in the other direction toward giving up your possessions entirely and living via inaction. This means that many Lilith in Taurus people need to be reminded of what truly matters in life.
Gemini
If your Lilith is in Gemini, you have the gift of the gab. You can talk to anyone and will use your communication skills above anything else. However, this means that you have to watch what you say. You can come off as unfiltered and too candid at times, speaking your mind when it’s not always appropriate to do so. You need to learn to read the room and keep control to prevent crossing boundaries.
Cancer
If your Lilith is in Cancer, you’ve got a big heart and you often put other’s needs above your own. You value stability, however, this may be something that you lack in your life, especially during childhood. You may reject the traditional ideals of family, particularly the stereotypical feminine roles of the house. You also struggle to stand up for yourself and express your vulnerability, which often leads to passive-aggression. Remember that sometimes things get messy and to stand your ground in times of adversity.
Leo
If your Lilith is in Leo, you have a strong self of self and you’re proud of who you are. But, this can mean that you have a tendency to be self-centered and prideful. It also means you put a lot of value into the thoughts and opinions of others, to the point where you’re in constant need of self-validation. It’s important to stay true to who you are and not focus too hard on getting the approval of people around you.
Virgo
If your Lilith is in Virgo, you’re always the first one to lend a helping hand. However, you’re definitely a perfectionist and can be hard on yourself, as well as others. You tend to get lost in the details of things and can be prone to overthinking. It’s important to remember that you’re only human and not to get overwhelmed by the little things.
Libra
If your Lilith is in Libra, you’re all about finding balance and harmony in life. However, this pursuit can be your downfall. You tend to be a people pleaser and don’t always value the right things in partners or friends—such as online followings, status or good looks. You’re also prone to some emotional instability, as you fight to maintain balance in your life. Make sure to seek out true and genuine people in your life and remember that balance isn’t always possible.
Scorpio
If your Lilith is in Scorpio, you’re someone who isn’t afraid to go deep with yourself. However, in doing so you may confront some demons and secrets that will cause havoc in your life. As a lover, you’re someone who isn’t afraid to be passionate, but you definitely have a vengeful side to you and you’re known to hold a grudge. Be sure to not let your emotions get the best of you and be careful to let those old secrets come back to haunt you.
Sagittarius
If your Lilith is in Sagittarius, you’re someone who’s exceptionally independent and ambitious. But, you have a tough time being satisfied. You’re someone who bounces from place to place, as well as person to person. You will choose freedom over anything and this means you have a tough time with commitment. Because of this, you’ll need to center yourself and not feel the urge to flee when things get tough.
Capricorn
If your Lilith is in Capricorn, you’re a very thoughtful and hardworking person. However, you have a tough time opening up to people and can be extremely emotionally distant. You use work as a means of putting distance between you and the people in your life, which leads you to feel burnt out and overwhelmed. Remember that vulnerability doesn’t necessarily mean weakness and opening up can help you to grow as a person.
Aquarius
If your Lilith is in Aquarius, you’re very progressive and non-judgemental. You often feel like the odd one out, which can make it tough for you to connect with friends and romantic partners. People with their Lilith in Aquarius also often have an ongoing internal conflict, as they struggle with the person they present to the world and their intuitive, subconscious self. Some serious soul searching may be in order for you, as learning how to connect with others can take some work.
Pisces
If your Lilith is in Pisces, you’re an incredibly artistic and curious person. But, you’re someone who’s extremely sensitive and this can be hard for you in all types of relationships. As someone who’s very sensitive, you take things incredibly personally and are prone to bursts of emotions. Pisces is the sign that takes on characteristics of all other signs, which means in Lilith you can have trouble in areas of identity. Remember not to take things so personally and to take the time to figure out who you are.